Comments on: He said he’s sorry about your pain! Friends now, right?

By: sumac

sumac — Sat, 11 Feb 2017 22:00:17 +0000

In reply to Jani. This is horrible. I am so sorry to hear it. Grinnell counselors made things worse, not better. They should be fired, and they should not be allowed to work in this field any more.

By: Jani

Jani — Sat, 11 Feb 2017 21:52:56 +0000

My granddaughter was gang raped by 2 boys at Grinnell around the time of this article. No help from Grinnell.
Councillors made her feel guilty about trying to report this.
They not only were of NO help, they made her feel it was her fault, so she continued to suffer.
Two years of her suffering later, she has had to leave the school, loose her scholarship, and is in full time therapy.

By: sumac

sumac — Sun, 26 Apr 2015 02:18:06 +0000

In reply to Hanoumatoi.

That’s so sad and terrible.

It also shows the way such things spread and affect people who weren’t directly involved….

By: Hanoumatoi

Hanoumatoi — Sat, 25 Apr 2015 22:16:06 +0000

I attended Grinnell for a couple of years in the early 2000s. The student president my freshman year had been accused of sexual assault in the past, and the victim had been forced to just sort of deal with it and expected to move on. Full disclosure: I was friends with the victim, though I had heard the story before I knew she was the victim. This sounds very Grinnell in some of the bad ways. Grinnell can be a great place to learn, but it can be a very bad place to be a tall nail.

By: :paula

:paula — Fri, 17 Apr 2015 16:47:21 +0000

Honestly, people are the worst. I’m sending my Bad Moms hit squad to Grinnell.

By: tanita

tanita — Thu, 12 Mar 2015 15:44:35 +0000

“Finally I apologize for any part I may have played in creating awkwardness…”

One of the more uncomfortable places to be is in the line of an enforced apology… I disliked it greatly when I was a child and an adolescent, having to stand awkwardly while some adult barked, “Now apologize,” and a sullen child mumbled something insincere at me. That never did anything but fulfill the letter of the law – not even the adult really felt better, did they?

This would be upwards one million, sixty-four thousand times worse. And to be forced to … accept that apology? Like the coach on the field just pressed the hands of two combatants together, though one of you is clearly bloodied and says, “Now, shake,” as if that makes you friends…!? What??? I agree – an additional crime is manipulating what is supposed to free both the injured and the injurer to simply cover the college’s backside against Title IX lawsuits. If that’s what this otherwise highly regarded school is interested in teaching… that’s a real shame.

Thanks for following up on this.