Comments on: Whoops. Did I get you in trouble with the union? https://sorrywatch.com/whoops-did-i-get-you-in-trouble-with-the-union/ Analyzing apologies in the news, media, history and literature. We condemn the bad and exalt the good. Sat, 08 Aug 2020 01:48:01 +0000 hourly 1 By: snarly https://sorrywatch.com/whoops-did-i-get-you-in-trouble-with-the-union/#comment-19656 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 04:30:16 +0000 https://sorrywatch.com/?p=2565#comment-19656 In reply to Lauren Bloom.

Thank YOU, Lauren!

]]> By: Lauren Bloom https://sorrywatch.com/whoops-did-i-get-you-in-trouble-with-the-union/#comment-19632 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 17:46:09 +0000 https://sorrywatch.com/?p=2565#comment-19632 Thanks for the kind words about “Art of the Apology.” I’m glad you find the book useful and hope your readers will agree. For the record, “Eric” isn’t The Pro’s name, but he does exist. All of the anecdotes in “Art of the Apology” are true stories, with names and identifying facts changed, including his.

]]> By: SMcC https://sorrywatch.com/whoops-did-i-get-you-in-trouble-with-the-union/#comment-18148 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 04:25:31 +0000 https://sorrywatch.com/?p=2565#comment-18148 I had a situation years ago in which I had a bitter disagreement with someone with whom I was good friends. That person happens to be very black and white about perceived wrong doing. While I was quite convinced that I was right, I felt that I would lose the friendship forever if I did not apologize.

I apologized even though it was insincere (I sincerely felt there was no wrongdoing on my part.) I am still extremely good friends with that person nearly 20 years later, I do not regret that apology.

]]> By: SMcC https://sorrywatch.com/whoops-did-i-get-you-in-trouble-with-the-union/#comment-18147 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 04:20:16 +0000 https://sorrywatch.com/?p=2565#comment-18147 Aaaargh. The apology as “weapon”. Ugh.

]]> By: tanita https://sorrywatch.com/whoops-did-i-get-you-in-trouble-with-the-union/#comment-18145 Tue, 01 Apr 2014 19:30:08 +0000 https://sorrywatch.com/?p=2565#comment-18145 Once upon a time I would not have agreed; I was a fan of ONLY apologizing when sincere, and refusing to do so when I didn’t feel it. However, I was on the front row for an acquaintance’s work mess wherein my acquaintance apologized when she didn’t feel it, just to stop the downward spiral of…well, basically everything. I think when you’re dealing with a passive-aggressive boss/superior who will continue to a.) be unable to disengage, or b.) go into hysterics, c.) give you the Reproachful Silent Treatment indefinitely, apologizing at least for your part in creating the situation must be acceptable.

Though I still don’t think apologizing for whatever they’re pissed about, just to shut them up, would work for me personally. Maybe (maybe?! Hah.) I’m being super idealistic, but it bugs me to give up my ethical/moral high ground for mere convenience. (“Which makes that ground a lot less high, missy,” she said to herself. Hmmm.) Maybe I haven’t had bad enough work imbroglios myself.

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