Campbell Newman, the Premier of Queensland, Australia, has just apologized for a quarter-century of stolen babies.
From the 1950s to the 1970s, hundreds of thousands of single women in Australia were forced to give up babies for adoption. They were bullied, misled, and sedated. In some cases they were shackled, their signatures were forged, or they were told their babies had died.
Margaret Oakhill-Hamilton was 19 when she gave birth. Forbidden to see or touch the child, she was pressured by doctors and by her parents to give the baby up for adoption.
Before the Queensland apology was delivered, she said she wanted it in writing that what happened was illegal, immoral and unethical. “If it doesn’t, the apology won’t be worth the paper it’s written on. We all need to know the crimes were theirs, not ours. We need that recognition.”
Queensland is nearly the last Australian state to apologize for these policies, under which the babies were given to married couples, and birth records sealed.
Before the state parliament, Newman said:
“Today this Legislative Assembly acknowledges the wrongs that have been inflicted by past forced adoption policies and practices in Queensland.
We acknowledge those who were denied the choice of parenthood, especially the mothers, as well as the fathers and other generations of their families.
To the mothers whose babies were taken and hidden from them, and who were misled, deceived, threatened or forced to relinquish their babies, we say sorry.
You were denied a voice, dignity and care and, in many cases, the fulfilment of your pregnancy was turned into anguish.
We regret the untruths that were told to you and about you, and any illegal acts that were perpetrated upon you.
Today we say that you need not suffer in silence any more.
To the sons and daughters taken from their mothers, we also say sorry and express our deep regret for the trauma that many of you have suffered. We acknowledge that you were denied the right to experience the bonds between you and your natural mother, father, siblings and other family members because of the practices that took place at the time of your birth. We know that for many of you this has caused immeasurable pain.
We acknowledge that this experience has impacted on the lives of fathers, siblings and other family members and to them we are sorry.
We acknowledge also the partners, children and others who have supported their loved ones over the years in coping with the grief they endure.
This Legislative Assembly offers its unreserved and sincere apology to all those families forcibly and unlawfully broken apart by these past practices and we acknowledge that your pain and suffering continues.
We acknowledge the shame, guilt and secrecy carried by many for too long in silence, and that when it was expressed often it has not been believed.
Today, in this Legislative Assembly, we place on the record for future generations and say to all those affected, you have been heard, you are believed and you are not to blame.
We will continue to listen to, work with, and support you to heal and we are committed to ensuring these policies and practices are not forgotten and are never repeated.
To all those affected we say sorry.”
Opposition leader Annastacia Palaszczuk then told Margaret Oakhill-Hamilton’s story, finishing by saying, “These women… were lied to. They were tricked into giving up their children. They were… lied to and browbeaten and bullied into believing they had absolutely no choice other than to give their children away. It was illegal. It was wrong.”
Those are good apologies. I think they meet Oakhill-Hamilton’s standard. One person who helped draft Newman’s apology is Kerri Saint, once a baby taken for adoption. In childhood, she was told that her biological mother had been 16 and had died in childbirth. Years later, she discovered that her mother had been a 34-year-old widow, who was forced to give her up.
An interesting (45-minute) investigative broadcast from Four Corners has interviews with women who were forced to give babies up. Also interviewed are two retired social workers (then called almoners) who worked with the mothers. One is seen in darkness, from behind, and is granted anonymity. She is angry about what she was called on to do.
The second social worker was at the Crown Street Women’s Hospital, then the largest source of adoptable babies in Australia. She is guarded, but also chillingly candid as she talks about how she refused to let the women see their babies until it had been decided what would happen to them. “I felt that had to be resolved.” It’s clear that many mothers thought they had to agree to give the baby up in order to see it, and that she knew this, and used it. “So… from the girl’s point of view, [they might have thought] ‘Oh well, she will only let me see the baby if I promise her I’m going to have the baby adopted’ – see what I mean?”
When the interviewer mentions apologies made in Western Australia for forced adoptions, she says “I suppose there are two sorts of apologies. You apologize for something that you’ve done that was wrong. The other one is when you say you’re sorry for something that has happened to somebody. And I think that anybody who was in that business, like me, for example, I would be happy to say that I’m extremely sorry for the pain and trauma and the things that happened to women in those days – but I don’t think I was doing those things.”
The apology in which she says how extremely sorry she is for “the things that happened” isn’t an apology at all. As for the apology for doing something that was wrong, which she doesn’t want to make – I don’t like to say it, because I think it was brave of her to be interviewed, but she was doing some of those things, and she should take responsibility for doing them. And apologize.
Well, we didn’t get all the Puritans, now did we…
The Queensland Legislative Assembly policy was excellent and appropriate.
I always wonder about government apologies that are (and often have to be) made by people who did not have any hand in the act being apologized for. I had wondered whether they really carried any weight. Especially if all those directly wronged are already dead. Fortunately, in this case some of those wronged are still alive to hear the apology. In this situation the legislative body’s apology has one more current effect. The fact that those who complained or inquired were branded liars, and probably worse, still needed to be addressed. This apology addresses this well.
Clearly for Margaret Oakhill-Hamilton, the apology, however late, has great meaning for her, and for others who suffered the same atrocities.
Since the apology was addressed to a large group of people, having one of the wronged group help craft the apology was really excellent and probably had a big and direct bearing on the quality of the apology. No WEASELING on this one!
The second almoner did not make anything that even resembles an apology. She’s working hard to skitter out from any direct responsibility for her actions. It sounds like she is afraid to admit the scope of her actions even to herself. I don’t know how much pressure such workers were under. This may have been an injustice (albeit lesser) on these women too.
One of the problems with unjust laws is that those who pass those laws do not have to either carry them out, or consider the welfare of those who do have to to carry them out.
There would be fewer death penalties, I think, if the juries had to witness the execution.
I like how she says “there are two sorts of apologies” and she is right in so far as there are two kind of statements that are *called* apologies. The first one is a real apology (“You apologize for something that you’ve done that was wrong.”) The second is frequently called an apology, but is actually just a statement of sympathy. “I’m sorry if you were offended” is very much like “I’m sorry for your loss” and not at all like “I’m sorry that I offended you with my thoughtless statement.”
As someone interviewed for about 5 hours by 4 Corners but left completely on the cutting room floor, let me make a few observations …
Firstly, if I hear or see one more media report referring to this as “between the 1970s & the 1990s”, I think i will slit my wrists. This stuff was going on in the 1920s and continued unabated well into the 1990s, possibly even into the 20th century. We get reports of similar treatment of young girls even today.
As for “sorry” – well, sorry seems to be to 21st centuries numbero ne weasel word – the word you use when you have no intention of (a) admitting anything, (b) doing anything tangible about what was done, and (c) calling to account those who perpetrated crimes which utterly ruined people’s lives.
The media, the politicians and the perpetrators like the one quoted in 4 Corners, need to get a grip on what went on here – this is not some unfortunate accident – this was deliberate stealth against the vulnerable for personal gain, and it needs to be addressed as the systematic crime that it was, and not as some oops-a-daisy misdemeanour. many many sufferers have committed suicide over this and those that haven’t have either gone to an early grave through self-neglect or live shatterd lives as hollowed-out human shells.
correction to above – it should say 1950s to 1970s.
Sorry! 🙂
Thank you for commenting, Cameron.
If this has been going on as recently as Cameron Horn indicates, then some of those responsible are doubtless still around, and even still in government. Indeed these people can be, and should be, held accountable in a far more tangible way than merely a statement of apology.